Hi friends,

I wanted to share with you the 10 things I did to survive motherhood during the first year of my child. I’ll share my story about our 2nd child as this is the latest and I can still clearly remember all. As you all know that I am a stay at home mom and we don’t have relatives around to help us out during the whole process. During the first month after giving birth, my in-laws flew in to at least help us out which we were so grateful and thankful for all their support. It was team work with my dear husband as always.

10 things i did to survive motherhood

I had a caesarian operation. It was our decision due to my slipped disc in my spine. We thought that it is the best option to go to. I was so lucky that after the operation, I had a fast recovery and was able to do normal things in a short span of time. Although, the pain was still there but it was tolerable and I did not take my pain killer as scheduled. Only when it is really really necessary.

I also had a post partum thingy that most mothers suffer right after giving birth. I felt so empty and sad for no reason. I mean I know I should be happy for all the blessings that we had but there was this complicated feeling that I myself could not understand and fathom. I had this too with our first child. That feeling lasted I think over a year but knowing that I will have that kind of feeling again on our 2nd child, I have to do things to prevent that feeling to happen or at least recover from it in just a few months. These are the things I did that really helped me not dwell in negative feelings as well as help me get through those sleepless nights.

1. Watch comedy movies. No drama or horror movies please.

With all the negative feelings inside me, I should smile and laugh a lot to shoo away or at least not think and feel empty or sad.

2. Eat nutritious food.

You can’t be wrong with this. During sleepless nights, I ate a slice of wholegrain bread and hot milo. Since I was breastfeeding even up to now, I often eat sliced fish soup. I love soup and if you are breastfeeding you really need to include soup in your menu.

3. When emptiness and sadness strikes, do not or shall I say never entertain the feeling or thought.

4. Communicate with your husband about what you feel. A little information would go a long way. 

Before our baby popped, I talked to my dear hubby about the things I might feel or possible “nasty attitude” after giving birth. I asked him for his all out support and to help me get through with day to day chores. Oh I told him too that the whole house would be really  messy and that his standard of cleanliness should be lowered down.

5. Savor the moment

Again, divert your attention to your newborn and kid. Just be with them and savor each moment. Decide to be happy instead of being sad.

6. Go out. 

Since we do not have someone to watch over the kids, we go out together with them. A change in environment is a great way to unwind.

7. Blogging

When I became a stay at home mother, I can’t remember when was the last time I went out with my girl friends. Blogging is a great way for me to connect with people who share the same passion as I do.  Blogging helped me stay awake during those sleepless nights. How? I don’t know but it keeps me wide awake while composing my post and checking out what  other co-bloggers are up to.  Blogging actually helped kept my sanity intact. But beware though as blogging can take up your time when you  should be resting. So, just strike a balance.

8. Crafting

Yes, crafting allows me to  release good and happy feelings.

9. Take care of yourself

Being a mother and wife, I am already occupied with a lot stuff and sometimes I forgot to take care of myself. To start with I try to take a full bath every day before our day starts. Yeah, I don’t take full bath everyday. Ssshhh gross right?!  haha Okay but I do take half bath that means I wash my head every other day. Then, I put on natural make-up. This helped me bring back my confidence. You see if you look good, you feel good right?

10. Drink Vitamins.

I think this is self explanatory. If you are in good health, you can give your best to your family and yourself too.

Those are my Top 10 list that made me survive motherhood during the first year of my 2nd child. How about you? Care to share your secrets with us? If there’s anything you want to add to my list, please feel free to let us know in the comments. We love to know them.

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  • Steph @ how to find a man September 13, 2013, 3:04 pm

    Awww Judy…

    I absolutely agree with you that having a positive mindset as much as possible. And it’s also healthy to be balanced and express and experience the negative feelings to.

    We can’t deny either, right?
    You’re a true trooper. It must of taken you a lot of courage.

    As my time draws near, I’m getting inspired by you to get prepared.

    :)
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    • Judy September 14, 2013, 9:35 am

      I agree Steph :) It is nice to experience the negative feelings at least we have the knowledge what it is like but hopefully not for a long time. For my first child, I think it lasted over a year. I really can’t remember. My girlfriend had it too and she said it took her a year and a half to really passed it. Post partum may vary from person to person. Sometimes you just don’t understand as I explained in my post. Dwelling in positive things and thinking happy thoughts and don’t forget watch comedy series had helped a lot to pass post partum. Oh my favorite was That 70’s Show. This comedy series never failed me.

      Oh wow, congrats for the upcoming baby. Take care always Steph and thanks for the kind words:)

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  • Feral Turtle September 14, 2013, 5:06 am

    Great post Judy. Postpartum is a very hard thing to deal with. Glad you were able to do it, I didn’t even realize you struggled with it as you are always so up-beat on your blog! This must mean your little guy is one. Happy birthday to him!

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    • Judy September 14, 2013, 9:14 am

      Haha. Oh I was. My blog actually helped me a lot to release those positive energy. When I had my first kid I wasn’t blogging yet at that time. Then this 2nd child my post partum I think lasted just for a couple of months. I am sure it was less than 6 mos. The emptiness was not that bad compared to the first one. That’s the thing about post partum, the people sorrounding you doesn’t really know what’s happening inside. I don’t know it was hard for me at first to voice out to my husband as I could not compose myself but this time around I explained to him everything. Well, I think it helped me a lot too for letting my husband know. I know there are other moms out there who are suffering more than me that’s why I wrote this post.

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  • Monica September 20, 2013, 6:51 am

    Judy,

    I would so love it if you would share this with my Mom friends at Family Fun Friday. This is a great article! http://happyandblessedhome.com/category/family-fun/
    Pinned. :-)
    Monica

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    • Judy September 20, 2013, 9:07 am

      Hi Monica,

      Thank you so much for the pin. I just linked-up :)

      Reply
  • Britni September 20, 2013, 1:39 pm

    I have a five month old and I’ve found that crafting, blogging, and doing even the simple things (dishes, making dinner, etc.) make me feel like I accomplished something on the long days. The transition to being a SAHM can be tough and these are all helpful tips. http://talenttoplay.blogspot.com
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    • Judy September 20, 2013, 5:58 pm

      Thank you Britni for the lovely comments. So glad to hear that you feel accomplished doing crafting, blogging and those simple things. We just have to divert our attention :)

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  • Vague September 23, 2013, 10:27 am

    I love #1! Great tips and I agree with your thought process and how to survive baby #2. Having baby #1 is also a lot of motivation and distraction to stay away from the mommy blues, too. :D
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    • Judy September 24, 2013, 9:26 pm

      Hi Vague,

      I totally agree with what you said. I just wish I had known better with baby #1. Thanks for the visit.

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  • Sarah September 23, 2013, 7:25 pm

    Thank you for sharing this. I was there with my first, it was terrible. Now pregnant with my second I am working my super supportive hubby to find ways to get through what I am anticipating might be a rough start to baby number 2. I agree with your tips, really good advise.
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    • Judy September 24, 2013, 9:21 pm

      Thanks Sarah for the visit. Might be rough at first just stay positive and I know you guys will get through it.

      Reply
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