I wanted to share with you the 10 things I did to survive motherhood during the first year of my child. I’ll share my story about our 2nd child as this is the latest and I can still clearly remember all. As you all know that I am a stay at home mom and we don’t have relatives around to help us out during the whole process. During the first month after giving birth, my in-laws flew in to at least help us out which we were so grateful and thankful for all their support. It was team work with my dear husband as always.
I had a caesarian operation. It was our decision due to my slipped disc in my spine. We thought that it is the best option to go to. I was so lucky that after the operation, I had a fast recovery and was able to do normal things in a short span of time. Although, the pain was still there but it was tolerable and I did not take my pain killer as scheduled. Only when it is really really necessary.
I also had a post partum thingy that most mothers suffer right after giving birth. I felt so empty and sad for no reason. I mean I know I should be happy for all the blessings that we had but there was this complicated feeling that I myself could not understand and fathom. I had this too with our first child. That feeling lasted I think over a year but knowing that I will have that kind of feeling again on our 2nd child, I have to do things to prevent that feeling to happen or at least recover from it in just a few months. These are the things I did that really helped me not dwell in negative feelings as well as help me get through those sleepless nights.
1. Watch comedy movies. No drama or horror movies please.
With all the negative feelings inside me, I should smile and laugh a lot to shoo away or at least not think and feel empty or sad.
2. Eat nutritious food.
You can’t be wrong with this. During sleepless nights, I ate a slice of wholegrain bread and hot milo. Since I was breastfeeding even up to now, I often eat sliced fish soup. I love soup and if you are breastfeeding you really need to include soup in your menu.
3. When emptiness and sadness strikes, do not or shall I say never entertain the feeling or thought.
4. Communicate with your husband about what you feel. A little information would go a long way.
Before our baby popped, I talked to my dear hubby about the things I might feel or possible “nasty attitude” after giving birth. I asked him for his all out support and to help me get through with day to day chores. Oh I told him too that the whole house would be really messy and that his standard of cleanliness should be lowered down.
5. Savor the moment
Again, divert your attention to your newborn and kid. Just be with them and savor each moment. Decide to be happy instead of being sad.
6. Go out.
Since we do not have someone to watch over the kids, we go out together with them. A change in environment is a great way to unwind.
When I became a stay at home mother, I can’t remember when was the last time I went out with my girl friends. Blogging is a great way for me to connect with people who share the same passion as I do. Blogging helped me stay awake during those sleepless nights. How? I don’t know but it keeps me wide awake while composing my post and checking out what other co-bloggers are up to. Blogging actually helped kept my sanity intact. But beware though as blogging can take up your time when you should be resting. So, just strike a balance.
Yes, crafting allows me to release good and happy feelings.
9. Take care of yourself
Being a mother and wife, I am already occupied with a lot stuff and sometimes I forgot to take care of myself. To start with I try to take a full bath every day before our day starts. Yeah, I don’t take full bath everyday. Ssshhh gross right?! haha Okay but I do take half bath that means I wash my head every other day. Then, I put on natural make-up. This helped me bring back my confidence. You see if you look good, you feel good right?
10. Drink Vitamins.
I think this is self explanatory. If you are in good health, you can give your best to your family and yourself too.
Those are my Top 10 list that made me survive motherhood during the first year of my 2nd child. How about you? Care to share your secrets with us? If there’s anything you want to add to my list, please feel free to let us know in the comments. We love to know them.
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