7 Ways to Survive and Keep Sane in Long Distance Relationship
I cannot say I am good at relationships. I suck at some point of my past relationship. These are my learnings and I wanted to share it to all of you esp. those who are now in Long Distance Relationship. It is not easy for both parties to be away from each other. It takes a lot of work and positive mind. It is risky too as one, the other or both will get bored.
I have been in a long distance relationships in the past before my husband and those relationships failed but I learned something so no regrets. It actually made me who I am today.
Now, I am again in a long distance relationship with my husband. This is our third time to be in LDR together. It is never easy for a family to stay miles apart. But we have reasons for this and that maybe in a different post.
So, what’s the difference with my past long distance relationship versus now with my hubby? As I was contemplating, the top 3 differences are:
1. We are already married
2. We have kids.
3. Obligations at home.
All of the above are not guarantees that the relationship will not fail or be shaken.
These are my beliefs to survive this ever challenging relationship.
1. Always think that it will work. Be positive.
If you think in the first place that it will never work then you are already half way thru the breakdown of your relationship. Before when I was single, I already have the notion that LDR will never work which is a mistake. So stay positive always.
2. Commit to the relationship.
Just because you are away from each other it doesn’t mean that it’s okay to have fun (flirt) with other women or men. It is not good too to stop your partner to have a sociable life. Be open to your partner who you are with, be it a guy or girlfriend. If you try to forbid your partner to be with someone, you are already putting them in the defensive side and will have a tendency to hide that from you.
3. Communicate, communicate, communicate…
The more you communicate with each other the more you will have the connection. Thanks to technology. Talk and share about anything. There’s Skype, WhatsApp, Facebook, text messaging and call if necessary EVERYDAY. Video Chat is always preferred. There are a lot of ways to stay connected with all the social media we have now a days. Use them to your benefit. How often you ask? as often as you both can.
4. TRUST, Loyalty, Respect and Love
There will always be people who will inject negative thoughts about your relationship. Trust, loyalty, respect and staying in love with each other are keys to help keep the relationship going. If in doubt, talk to each other. Again, communicate.
5. Plan your next visit
It is better to plan ahead to make sure that you spend quality time with each other. This will also save some bucks for your ticket. Book your ticket early to get the best plane rates. Visit each other as often as you can. You both need the physical contact.
“I have always wanted a date night out with Hubby only. I hope we could make it soon. It is a bit hard to have a date when you have kids to attend to. “
6. Stay sweet and romantic.
As a woman, It’s the thought that counts. Keep saying sweet words to one another. I know you know those words.
7. Keep your mind busy.
- Create something like crafting, DIY, sewing, baking, photography, dancing, marathon, shopping, playing with kids, cooking, cleaning, blogging (like what I am doing right now, Ha!), organizing your things that has been piling up, watch movies online.
- Visit the oldies
- Connect with old friends, make new friends
- Attend Seminars, workshop, conference, Work
- Learn a new skill
- Do business.
There will be lots of challenges in LDR so following the tips above won’t hurt though every LDR is not the same. Some of the tips above may not be applicable to you. I wrote this post as a reminder for us (me and hubby) too.
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